tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post3860434725770649517..comments2024-03-22T22:20:02.000+11:00Comments on a long personal essay: Parental ExpectationsMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-25957865216264176472015-06-12T21:17:49.061+10:002015-06-12T21:17:49.061+10:00Awh thanks Noor. I'm glad you noticed the new...Awh thanks Noor. I'm glad you noticed the new design. Ugh my mother is being annoying again. She's in a bad mood so she's yelling at everyone, very loudly. :(Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-66114644308997202222015-06-11T06:16:07.191+10:002015-06-11T06:16:07.191+10:00Ugh, sometimes parents can be so frustrating. M, h...Ugh, sometimes parents can be so frustrating. M, how are you so perfect, even your rants are beautiful. I love your new design btw. Noorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00632409992742705091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-86243758904418400272015-06-10T21:29:06.951+10:002015-06-10T21:29:06.951+10:00I think it's something every person in the wor...I think it's something every person in the world is learning: How to get along with their parents/kids. It's such a balanced relationship and that balance is almost always way off. All relationships are complicated, but this is one of the most complicated of all.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-19411496974258738592015-06-10T21:27:45.262+10:002015-06-10T21:27:45.262+10:00It's definitely true that with family we are o...It's definitely true that with family we are our most comfortable, our most real, which is how we can see every single part of each other. With other people everyone is fake, and you're right: That's what we're comparing our family to, that pretend "beauty". But at the same time, I can see that once you've been away from them for a year, you may miss them, but maybe that's just a sign that family relationships are better off when spent apart.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-68789173771368871042015-06-10T06:39:06.105+10:002015-06-10T06:39:06.105+10:00The way you write and express things is awesome!
...The way you write and express things is awesome! <br />Relationships with parents are complex and difficult. I mean let's be honest here, it is. As much as we love and hopefully respect them. We all have our problems and issues. The parents have theirs and the kid's have theirs too. And looking for a way to deal with both is something I'm still learning. <br /><br />~Kristen <br />https://www.etsy.com/shop/DreamaCrochetKristenGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08661187476291569682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-8318307894710318332015-06-10T04:13:13.623+10:002015-06-10T04:13:13.623+10:00I've definitely felt these frustrations before...I've definitely felt these frustrations before, but I've never been able to make sense of this overwhelming feeling or put it into words, and definitely never as clearly as you've articulated yourself here, despite being exhausted. Nobody's perfect, and family is no exception. Everyone wants to present the best version of themselves, but an image is all it is, and it's tiring to keep up. The best part about family is being comfortable around them, not feeling like you have to act properly or be courteous. No bullshit, all real. But after years together, this comfort sometimes starts getting taken for granted. You see the most beautiful parts of them, but you also start seeing the ugliest parts, and what we have to remember, however difficult it is, is that you can't compare them to other people, because you haven't seen the ugliest parts of these other people. We're comparing our family's ugly parts to strangers' beautiful parts. Of course, the contrast is not quite so extreme, but hopefully you see what I'm getting at. Parents... they're just people, and they're every bit as lost as we are, but for our sake they try to keep it together, and sometimes they overcompensate, much to our chagrin. Maybe once in awhile we just need to remind them that they're enough, that we love them just as they are, that they have faults but that it's okay, and maybe then they won't constantly be seeking approval and validation from others. And the same reminder goes for ourselves :) The only way I'm able to say this in such a level-headed manner (I'd like to think) is because I've been away from my family for a year (first year of college done, *check*!) and (after my fair share of frustrations) I'm (finally) at a good place with them. I hope you find it too! I hope you find some peace with your family! We spend way too much time with our families to not love them. It'd be a terrible waste! -Audrey | <a href="http://brunchataudreys.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Brunch at Audrey's</a>Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14049606390899743914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-61835036186404637432015-06-09T20:34:00.988+10:002015-06-09T20:34:00.988+10:00They really are because we know our family members...They really are because we know our family members so well, and our uncensored behaviour becomes complicated. Thanks Anaya xMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-26476396160395711482015-06-09T12:55:49.306+10:002015-06-09T12:55:49.306+10:00Families are pretty complicated ..old age is like ...Families are pretty complicated ..old age is like second childhood !Great Post <br /><br /><a href="http://www.ananyatales.com/2015/05/party-dresses.html" rel="nofollow">Bling Bling</a>Ananyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156727486680867354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-11854272254386509122015-06-08T22:12:50.586+10:002015-06-08T22:12:50.586+10:00As I grow up I am both realising how much I'm ...As I grow up I am both realising how much I'm changing and how imperfect and unknowledgeable I still am. I guess adults and children and all people are alike in this imperfectness and cluelessness. We're all almost equal in a way.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-5169029357783123612015-06-08T22:11:20.530+10:002015-06-08T22:11:20.530+10:00I guess it's true that we all need someone to ...I guess it's true that we all need someone to believe in, someone we know so well we can actually identify their ugliest parts, because we all have them. Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-63959070569022911982015-06-08T10:52:45.727+10:002015-06-08T10:52:45.727+10:00Families are complicated. Also as you get older, y...Families are complicated. Also as you get older, you realise adults are just like children. Just with less hair and bills to pay. I thought at 28 I'd have my shit together. But I still feel 14.<br /><br />Corinne x<br />www.skinnedcartree.comCorinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977911503680960927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-14184692882388630632015-06-08T03:40:34.921+10:002015-06-08T03:40:34.921+10:00I tried to comment but I don't think it worked...I tried to comment but I don't think it worked. Anyway, no one's perfect but I don't know what we have without our families. I remember my dad as a hero that could do nothing wrong, even though I understand that it wasn't true.<br /><br />/Avy<br /><br /><a href="http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"><b>http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com</b></a><br /><br />♥AVYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01035987277042149877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-7146817930148353822015-06-07T21:34:45.708+10:002015-06-07T21:34:45.708+10:00Haha who knows? If your parents enjoy talking abo...Haha who knows? If your parents enjoy talking about rankings (in a country that doesn't rank students publicly) and getting high grades for no particular reason and being paranoid about their kids doing anything, probably. And thanks for noticing my blog design!! xMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-25605678045505237432015-06-07T21:31:36.852+10:002015-06-07T21:31:36.852+10:00Thanks so much Archie! I'm glad you noticed. ...Thanks so much Archie! I'm glad you noticed. I feel like the black and white is making people think my posts are deeper than they were, and I'm not complaining. People are definitely more grey than black and white, and it's up to us to grab the good parts of each person and hold on, make that a part of ourselves. We can learn to eradicate these demons as best as we can. Sometimes it's just too hard though. It's difficult being a good person. It's why I don't think anyone truly is.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-2576748958540127822015-06-07T21:29:08.738+10:002015-06-07T21:29:08.738+10:00Thanks so much TuddaPudda. I'm glad I made yo...Thanks so much TuddaPudda. I'm glad I made you think. You're definitely asking the right questions because that's exactly what all of us do - we reflect the people we've grown up with in ourselves, and sometimes this can manifest into something monstrous that needs to be stopped. The thing about parents though, is they've lived their whole lives like this and can't be taught differently. We can still change ourselves though.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03487894789971938605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-14759683514404943212015-06-07T20:27:10.060+10:002015-06-07T20:27:10.060+10:00I feel the same way. Actually, I'm pretty sure...I feel the same way. Actually, I'm pretty sure you're the only blogger I can relate to right now. Do we come from the same culture or...? The similarities are uncanny.<br /><br />I don't have much to say because you've said it all. Oh yeah, I love your new blog design. :)jodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15645843961463128576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-12796824133734577332015-06-07T15:56:32.536+10:002015-06-07T15:56:32.536+10:00For a fifteen-year-old girl, you surely are highly...For a fifteen-year-old girl, you surely are highly observant, M. <br />This is deep, so incredibly deep. You've explained some of the darkest aspects of life so well, so maturely, in fact! <br />But more than deep, your write-up is understandable. I can relate to it so well. I had similar thoughts too, when I was a fifteen-year-old<br />As you grow up, you realize that people aren't segregated into good or bad, black or white. Everyone is a varying shade of grey. Everyone has their own set of demons which they artfully veil beneath a perfect visage. <br />But, despite the demons, there's also a lot of good in everyone. In some, it might be hidden deep down and in some, you can see it shine out. <br />I think it's really good that you observe everyone (even your parents and yourself) from an extremely impartial eye! <br />Stay awesome as ever,<br />Much love, <br />Archie <3<br />P.S., I really like the new theme! :) <br />Archiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04450489141434668475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699385733480282081.post-77260389012414213302015-06-07T06:26:20.720+10:002015-06-07T06:26:20.720+10:00Can I just say, the way you express yourself in wr...Can I just say, the way you express yourself in writing is amazing? Whether or not you were tired. And this...wow this is really deep. I mean, it made me think about myself in yet, another light than I had before. <br />Are you saying that because of whom you've grown up with, you yourself are reflecting those very same, deep negative thoughts and actions as those around you? <br />Like if I am thought to be the most savage and selfish person in my family, but I am actually repeating the same things they are on a whole new level? I don't even think I asked any of those questions right. Sorry *_____________*<br /><br />But anyway, really liked this post and your blog looks amaz. <br /><br />~TuddaPudda ^__________________^ Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04117586326966262460noreply@blogger.com