I've been getting into more disagreements than usual lately. I'm not sure if it's because I'm changing as a person or if it's because I'm PMSing or something, but I feel like I've been a little sensitive, and annoyed at the same time. Like, the disagreements with the parentals is normal, but I've also started having them with friends and everybody I know well in my life.
I think I just enjoy asserting my opinion. And my opinion sometimes differs a lot from the people around me. I'm not sure why. And I'm not sure why they all have to disagree either. Am I not carrying myself in the right way or something? I mean, I get that I've said a lot of stupid things in my lifetime, but is that really enough to cause me disrespect? Not everything I say is completely stupid. It's like it's a reflex action for people to disagree with whatever I say if there's any sort of conflict of opinions.
Well, not everyone disagrees. Some people do agree with me. I just hate it when certain people gang up I guess. And I need to get to the bottom of why I'm always wrong in their minds, or why my world view is so vastly different from theirs in general.
I feel like it's our demographic. I go to an extremely sheltered all girls private school with extremely sheltered people. And sometimes that's just the most irritating thing in the world because I know I'm extremely sheltered myself and that there's so much more to learn and we're not normal. We're practically in that top .1% who don't really experience normal normal. Lately I've been doing this thing where I don't judge, I just accept. I've decided that everyone has their way of life, and there's no right way to do things. Not judging people is not about being nice or anything. It's not about how wrong or right judging people is. It's simply about opening your mind to new things, no matter how big or small. It's about opening yourself up to everything and soaking the world in, not them.
I don't want to be in that top .1% who has practically no contact with anyone less sheltered than I am. I don't want to only mix with the people who look at university as a necessity rather than an option, the people who want to be doctors and financial people and lawyers and all the high end jobs and that's it. I mean, I am one of those people, but I feel like to become a more worldly knowledgeable grown person, you need to mix with every kind of person openly.
But clearly none of my friends have that philosophy. Or maybe they do. I don't know. All I know is that we've disagreed on some things lately and I may be sensitive and they may not care and they may be reading this right now but whatever.
I like people who assert their opinion, because it's more for me to learn. So I like their different opinions. I like it when people disagree with me and I might just end up agreeing in the end. What I don't like is people who blindly agree with the person who disagrees with me and don't assert their opinion at all. I wonder if I don't carry myself right, in the way that screams 'you have to agree with me', or if I've just said so many stupid things in my lifetime that nobody really listens anymore. The other day someone said jokingly, after I confused Adelaide with Alice Springs (I know. That was pretty stupid), that every time I speak their respect for me just goes down a notch and has since the day I met them. She was joking of course, but I feel like there's some truth to that comment as well.
But some people are just so freaking sheltered they don't understand some of the ways real life works. It's just that some of the comments people have made about what they want to do are so absurdly ridiculous because they don't understand that life doesn't work that way and I just want to push them outside to go meet some hobos. Okay, maybe not hobos, but just some older people who are in uni or are working or are taking a gap year, or even just to go make some year 11 or 12 friends and maybe they'll get a clue about next year too. They need to know what they're signing up for before making the crucial decisions.
I feel like different people and their different opinions are important at this stage of life. I feel like talking to anybody and everybody is important, especially people who are doing what you plan on doing one day. And I feel like nobody agrees with my open philosophy, which is why I'm stating it here.
In fact, what I think is the first important step is to get an opinion. If you're already disagreeing, great, you've got one. And I'm not really right a lot of the time so you probably are in some way, not that I agree. But for those people who seem to have no substance, no opinion, or even just an uninformed opinion, go get one. Find yourself some substance. Think through what you're agreeing with before you speak. Realise the world is bigger than yourself and your little bubble. Go expand your world view.
My opinion is that everybody's opinion counts, and listening to all of them makes you a superior person. Just be wary of the reasoning of their opinion, and where they're getting their knowledge from. And when you feel like their reasoning is wrong, or they're lacking information, or they don't even really have an opinion and are practically sheep, that's when you disagree.