Saturday, 14 February 2015

A Social Media Obsession

I was meant to be writing about a healthy habit I've taken up in the last month, but I'm not feeling very healthy habbit-y today.  Instead I've got a very unhealthy habit that's burning away hours of my life, and I find that I'm not getting much done at all, letting the hours pass from 6 to 7 to 8 and wondering where they went.


Okay, so I'm not saying social media is a bad thing.  It's an amazing thing!  It's so amazing and endless that I can't stop looking at it.  I'll always return to it.  There's so much knowledge to acquire, and it's not all about what people are doing.  It's also about healthy living and world facts and life in general.  I am expanding my mind in a way, but I think there needs to be a balance.

I also know that there are so many people out there my age who have their phones glued to their hands.  They're constantly online, constantly checking the latest posts.  Even when they're socialising in person, they're still virtually socialising if not to post about their in-person-socialising.  Our generation is either really messed up, or really resourceful.


The thing about this city is that there's so many people, yet it's small enough know every single school, making us all connected in a way.  We also meet so many people in our lives, through sport and moving schools, and it's entertaining seeing how these people have connected with other people who connect to you, or simply seeing how people you used to know are faring now.  What are their lives like?  What kind of person have they become?

And then there's simply finding new people.  They might be a friend of a friend.  They might be someone who's talked about a lot.  They might just be hot.  Stalking is perfectly natural, so much so that no one is embarrassed to admit they stalk people on social media.  I love getting snippets into people's lives, seeing the mass variety of experiences, acquiring more knowledge about our demographic.  It's just interesting.


Another thing I spend my time looking at is celebrities.  Taylor Swift is honestly friends with so many other A-listers.  There's the VS models, Lorde, Selena Gomez... and eventually all of them pretty much connect, like they have their own small city spread across the world.  They link to each other, tag each other, and you end up stalking so many of them, wasting so much time.  Although, I wouldn't say finding out Taylor Swift's video for Style is out was a waste of time.  It was a really cool video, a little weird and intense, but very cool.  I love how the guy comes back in the end.  When we go crashing down we come back every time // coz we never go out of style...

And all the memes and funny videos.  There's always more.  There's always more accounts.  I can't stop looking and laughing and tagging.


Okay, so I'd say my number one social media is Instagram.  Scrolling through your feed is already addictive enough, and it gets even more addictive when you see someone interesting tagged in a photo and you click on them.  It's never ending.  There'll always be more interesting people tagged.  It's the connection thing I described all over again.  And then you find someone you once knew through all the connections and you follow, and you find more.

I also find myself obsessing over who's following who and whether they're following me or following back.  I hate it when someone doesn't follow back.  It's unhealthy but I do.

And am I the only one who bothers to read the comments?


I also love the relatable quotes and memes and scenes, and I even have a second instagram account for this blog, which is like my version of a spam account, except better because it's more about the quotes and memes than me.  I don't understand these private spam accounts.  I follow them, but I still don't understand.



And then there's Facebook.  Bloody facebook.  I got it about three weeks ago and I can't stop.  The fact that there's literally no one on private is one reason.  Then there's the mutual friends think which is something else I can't stop looking at.  And then there's the profile pics, which you can zoom in on and look at every single one.  And then there's messanger.  Oh god messanger.
 
 
I feel like Facebook is my confident site.  I don't post anything, so I don't care what people see.  The only stuff I ever post are happy birthdays (which there are a lot of - three in the last two days), and comments if I'm tagged in something or a friend posts a very nice new profile pic.  I'll literally send a friend request to anyone I know or knew, no matter when, and even people I've only heard of.  It's not an invasion of privacy to me, seeing as there's nothing on my profile, and they do accept, so it's not for them either.

The people in this city are all connected.  People from primary school, high school, my old dance school, my friend's school, they're all intertwined.  And it's amazing how many different people I've encountered can all end up at the same event.  The city is so small.


And searching for people is so much easier because they do it based on mutual friends.  I might be searching for a "Sofie" that goes to my school, and end up having a "Sofie" I forgot from primary school appear instead.

Now about messanger, when I first got Facebook that was all I used.  Literally everyone has facebook, which means literally everyone is accessible to chat, whether I've talked to them recently or not.  You can contact anyone as long as you know their name.  I managed to talk to so many old primary school mates and people from particular encounters.  It's insane.

 

I also absolutely love snap chat.  It's the stories.  I can see what every person is doing at a particular moment, or what's happening at a major event or celebration around the world, and they keep building up.  By the end of each day I get to view so many new stories, and it's entertaining.  I can share exactly what I'm doing too, in just one snap.



The "ugly selfies are also pretty fun.  I say "ugly" because it's mostly people looking pretty in the pretence that they're pulling an ugly face, if you get what I mean.

I miss snap chat best friends though.


Even blogger counts as a social media.  Reading other blogs, commenting, posting on my own as I am now.  It's all hours spent on social media, although I would say it's more mind building than any of the other three I've described.  This morning alone, I've spent an hour here already, and another half an hour on my phone, and it's only 10am.

So I've basically spent this whole post talking about how much I love social media, so you can see how far my obsession's gone.  I mean, social media is an amazing invention.  No doubt about that.  I just need to limit myself, but I'm not so sure how to do that.

I can't say no social media after 6pm, because that's valid time I would spend on it.  I can't give myself times because my schedule is so flexible I need this to be flexible too. Or am I just making excuses?  Maybe I should say I can't use it for an hour at a time.  Or I need to do everything I need to get done first, and I need to sleep by this time.  No social media once I'm in bed reading.

I'm in desperate need for some strategies.  How should I go about this?


Love,
M

50 comments:

  1. I don't have Snapchat, but I love Instagram. A lot of my friends live outside or on the other side of town that my parents hate going over too ("It's too far!" they say.) :D I love the Memes, too. There was this one with Ellen that said, "We don't want skinny new phones! All I wants is a tortilla chip that can hold its own weight." XD

    xoxo Morning

    xoxo Morning

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    1. Ugh! I know! My parents never want to give me rides because I live in the north while everyone lives in the south. My friend and I live on the complete opposite sides so we sometimes take hour long buses to see each other in the holidays. It's not too bad but I wish all my friends were my neighbours as well. And I swear I've seen that meme!! Haha gotta love Ellen memes :')

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  2. Ahh, social media. It's something we all hate somehow, but it's also something we can't run away from. It's like a necessity already. We all need to feel being connected with other people without the hassle of physically interacting with them, and that's how this thing makes us obsessed.

    Life With Antlers

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    1. Yes! Ugh I honestly hate stupid social media because it stresses me out way more than face to face socialising because it's never really clear what they really mean. But then, I love it because I know what's happening in everyone's lives. Also, "socialising" without interaction sure is great ;)

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    2. Yeah you're right M. Social media is great for socializing with people who aren't near. For that reason I do like social media. I just can't stand though when people make social media sites a competition, or try to one up you. That's just stupid to me. Which is one of the reasons I don't want to get a facebook page, and yet I still want to get one.

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  3. YESSSSSS INSTAGRAM LOVERS UNITE!!!! That and Snapchat are the most addictive and time-sucking for me. #socialmediaproblems #thestruggleisreal

    Chloe | Curious Ramblings

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    1. Hahaha too true!! Hours wasted on ugly selfies and commenting "gorgeous xx" on pretty ones. #wastingmylifeaway #struggleiswaytooreal

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  4. i only have instagram... so I'm on that a lot as I have no other social stuff lol ;')

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    1. I could waste hours on instagram alone ;)

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    1. Honestly, those random snap stories and 'discover' are the closest I get to the news :')

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  6. I'm more an Instagram person...especially now that my guinea pig has an Instagram account (I swear, she's the addicted one, not me *blushes*)

    Happy Valentine's Day! <3

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    1. Hahahaha :') I love pet instagrams. Happy valentines day to you too xx

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  7. i wish i could help but i'm a little too obsessed as well! love twitter & instagram

    xx danielle // shades of danielle // bloglovin

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    1. Ahh the obsession is too hard to overcome! Guess we'll just have to keep being obsessed ;)

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  8. Hmmmmm! It's only Blogger for me.. but I see what you mean :)

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    1. I spend so much time on blogger, but I guess I do kinda view it more as a hobby (even though it's so much more) than a social media. I mean, I'm reading opinions on everything and life in general, and it's good for my mind.

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  9. I don't have twitter, facebook, instagram, snap chat, or any other popular social media sites. I just don't have time or interest.
    And also because I could get addicted!!

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    1. Correction: you WOULD get addicted. Haha I can't even imagine what life must be like without them.

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  10. It's a struggle for me it's Blogger and Pintrest. I think the only way to break is to give yourself a time limit or only use it after the more important things get done. Reading at night is a great strategy though, I'm going to try that.

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    1. Haha I like the idea of Pinterest, but I know that getting it would just make my obsession even worse. That strategy of doing the important stuff first is definitely a good one. But a little check between is okay right? Ugh. I need to move my phone away while I'm doing homework. And honestly, after I've finished reading and am about to go to sleep, I end up checking social media...

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  11. Lol ! I am addicted to Blogger, Twitter & Pinterest ! X

    Follow me on GFC, I always follow back.

    WWW.HEKYMA.BLOGSPOT.COM

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  12. Personally, I really like Tumblr, Instagram and Twitter. I hate Facebook and Snapchat though, the only reason why I still have Snapchat is to see the snaps youtubers put in their story :)
    And I have a cousin who lives in Canada and without social media I wouldn't be able to chat with her as much as I do now.

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    1. Ah Tumblr. I kinda wanna get tumblr. But I pretty much already know that's gonna be so addictive. I already stalk people on there, so I'm not wanting to have one of my own. Plus, blogger is enough right? Because I can put so many words in here too. And youtubers have snap stories!? I need to go find some of them!!! Social media really does have it's perks in terms of keeping in touch and keeping in the loop of your favourite youtubers ;)

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    Ficaria radiante se visita-se o meu blog, e leia alguma coisa, meu blog é um blog cristão que fala de diversos assuntos.
    É o Peregrino E Servo.
    Desejo muita paz e saúde.
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    1. Sorry I don't speak Portugese. But your blog sounds great xx

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  14. This is so true.
    At one point, I absolutely love social media (being alone and receiving attention at the same time - who doesn't love that?).
    At another, it completely destroys your study-schedule and makes you a procrastinator. And right now, I'm supposed to work my butt off for my board exams (which have A HUGE IMPACT on my life - career, that is!).
    Such is life! :/
    Archie
    http://eeriefairy.blogspot.com

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    1. Hahaha so true. I'm supposed to be doing my maths sheet. But guess what... I'm not either. But yeah you're right it's actually such a bad thing. Receiving attention and knowledge whilst lazing around is great, but becoming a major procrastinator isn't.

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  15. I love social media, it is the biggest time waster though! Maybe just do it so you can only check once an hour? And can only stay on for 15 minutes at a time. I wouldn't class blogger as a social media to be honest, as you can't blog without itand blogging is more of a skill/ hobby.

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

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    1. Thanks! That's a really good tip. Maybe even less than once an hour if I can manage it. Maybe I should keep the phone in my bag and not check it often at all, and when I do limiting it to 15 minutes is definitely a smart idea. And you're right. Blogging seems more like a hobby than a social media.

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  16. Follow my site for a follow!

    Soooomsies.blogspot.co.uk

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  17. I love it Instagram
    xx

    www.sakuranko.com

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  18. wow i never realised how many social media we are using everyday, the list is very long! good analysis!

    Barbs

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    1. Thanks Barbs! We really do use so many, and I don't even have all of them.

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  19. I love social media, but I really get what you mean... I am constantly connected to blogger, lookbook, twitter, facebook. instagram... omg... i may loose my sense due to this parallel virtual universes I am constantly in... I wish to cut it out, but how??? now most of the ppl comunicate JUST via social media.... :/
    have a good week ;)
    xoxo
    Anja

    have

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    1. I know right!? But maybe we shouldn't always need to communicate. I know we shouldn't, so I don't understand why we find it so hard to just do something completely alone, virtual world unincluded as well. How is the very important question. It takes a lot of endurance.

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  20. I feel like it's really nice to be connected but also soooo important to take a break here and there before it takes over your life.
    Just turn off your phone and computer and go for a hike or a swim.. watch a movie.. read a book. Take some chill time for yourself !

    http://mystery-girl007.blogspot.com/

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    1. That's the thing. I do go for swims, watch movies, read books, just go out in general. But when it comes to doing productive stuff at home voluntarily, I never get anything done because I can procrastinate for hours on social media.

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  21. Hi, just a note to say that I have nominated you for the Infinity Dreams Award over on my blog (http://penandkey.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/infinity-dreams-award-pen-key.html).
    Can't wait to see your post,
    Eve <3

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    1. Thanks so much Eve!! I'm checking it out now <3

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  22. I’ve just found your blog and I’d like to say that I’m in love with it!
    I like your posts and photos! Really amazing!
    I’ll be happy to see you in my blog!)

    Diana Cloudlet
    http://www.dianacloudlet.com/

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    1. Thanks Diana. I'm glad you like it. Okay, I'm checking out your blog.

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  23. Social media is very addicting.Once a week I try to turn off my devices for 24 hours.. I fail each time and have to always "peek for a hour" lol but practice makes perfect, right?
    Oh and I'm, sure you're not the only one who reads comments! I always read them because sometimes they're better than the actual post!

    -Sierra
    Berry Stylish ♥ itsberrystylish.com  

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    1. Haha nah that's never going to work, unless you get someone to hide the phone. But then I'd go into absolute mayhem, which isn't healthy at all. If only there were a full proof way to get over our addiction.

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