Okay, so I'm not saying social media is a bad thing. It's an amazing thing! It's so amazing and endless that I can't stop looking at it. I'll always return to it. There's so much knowledge to acquire, and it's not all about what people are doing. It's also about healthy living and world facts and life in general. I am expanding my mind in a way, but I think there needs to be a balance.
I also know that there are so many people out there my age who have their phones glued to their hands. They're constantly online, constantly checking the latest posts. Even when they're socialising in person, they're still virtually socialising if not to post about their in-person-socialising. Our generation is either really messed up, or really resourceful.
The thing about this city is that there's so many people, yet it's small enough know every single school, making us all connected in a way. We also meet so many people in our lives, through sport and moving schools, and it's entertaining seeing how these people have connected with other people who connect to you, or simply seeing how people you used to know are faring now. What are their lives like? What kind of person have they become?
And then there's simply finding new people. They might be a friend of a friend. They might be someone who's talked about a lot. They might just be hot. Stalking is perfectly natural, so much so that no one is embarrassed to admit they stalk people on social media. I love getting snippets into people's lives, seeing the mass variety of experiences, acquiring more knowledge about our demographic. It's just interesting.
Another thing I spend my time looking at is celebrities. Taylor Swift is honestly friends with so many other A-listers. There's the VS models, Lorde, Selena Gomez... and eventually all of them pretty much connect, like they have their own small city spread across the world. They link to each other, tag each other, and you end up stalking so many of them, wasting so much time. Although, I wouldn't say finding out Taylor Swift's video for Style is out was a waste of time. It was a really cool video, a little weird and intense, but very cool. I love how the guy comes back in the end. When we go crashing down we come back every time // coz we never go out of style...
And all the memes and funny videos. There's always more. There's always more accounts. I can't stop looking and laughing and tagging.
Okay, so I'd say my number one social media is Instagram. Scrolling through your feed is already addictive enough, and it gets even more addictive when you see someone interesting tagged in a photo and you click on them. It's never ending. There'll always be more interesting people tagged. It's the connection thing I described all over again. And then you find someone you once knew through all the connections and you follow, and you find more.
I also find myself obsessing over who's following who and whether they're following me or following back. I hate it when someone doesn't follow back. It's unhealthy but I do.
And am I the only one who bothers to read the comments?
I also love the relatable quotes and memes and scenes, and I even have a second instagram account for this blog, which is like my version of a spam account, except better because it's more about the quotes and memes than me. I don't understand these private spam accounts. I follow them, but I still don't understand.
And then there's Facebook. Bloody facebook. I got it about three weeks ago and I can't stop. The fact that there's literally no one on private is one reason. Then there's the mutual friends think which is something else I can't stop looking at. And then there's the profile pics, which you can zoom in on and look at every single one. And then there's messanger. Oh god messanger.
The people in this city are all connected. People from primary school, high school, my old dance school, my friend's school, they're all intertwined. And it's amazing how many different people I've encountered can all end up at the same event. The city is so small.
And searching for people is so much easier because they do it based on mutual friends. I might be searching for a "Sofie" that goes to my school, and end up having a "Sofie" I forgot from primary school appear instead.
Now about messanger, when I first got Facebook that was all I used. Literally everyone has facebook, which means literally everyone is accessible to chat, whether I've talked to them recently or not. You can contact anyone as long as you know their name. I managed to talk to so many old primary school mates and people from particular encounters. It's insane.
I also absolutely love snap chat. It's the stories. I can see what every person is doing at a particular moment, or what's happening at a major event or celebration around the world, and they keep building up. By the end of each day I get to view so many new stories, and it's entertaining. I can share exactly what I'm doing too, in just one snap.
The "ugly selfies are also pretty fun. I say "ugly" because it's mostly people looking pretty in the pretence that they're pulling an ugly face, if you get what I mean.
I miss snap chat best friends though.
Even blogger counts as a social media. Reading other blogs, commenting, posting on my own as I am now. It's all hours spent on social media, although I would say it's more mind building than any of the other three I've described. This morning alone, I've spent an hour here already, and another half an hour on my phone, and it's only 10am.
So I've basically spent this whole post talking about how much I love social media, so you can see how far my obsession's gone. I mean, social media is an amazing invention. No doubt about that. I just need to limit myself, but I'm not so sure how to do that.
I can't say no social media after 6pm, because that's valid time I would spend on it. I can't give myself times because my schedule is so flexible I need this to be flexible too. Or am I just making excuses? Maybe I should say I can't use it for an hour at a time. Or I need to do everything I need to get done first, and I need to sleep by this time. No social media once I'm in bed reading.
I'm in desperate need for some strategies. How should I go about this?