A cute date.
Sneaking out at night.
A wild party.
We all know how it's supposed to go. High school (and middle school in America) is meant to be filled with drama, social anxiety, and so many firsts. Some people say it's the best years of their life, and that's exactly what I was expecting for my future, leaving my primary school and starting year 7 at high school for the first time.
But is school really meant to go like that? Maybe in movies. Maybe even in America. But here? I'm living in a world opposite from all the stereo-typical "rites of passage" and I can't help but feel as if I'm missing out on a bunch of stuff. Going to an all girls private school on an island on the other side of the world really is far fetched from the high school experience so many girls dream about.
And I can't be the only one. In fact, I think that a lot of girls my age aren't going through these rites of passage either, and I bet a whole load of them are wondering what they're missing out on and when things will start happening too.
Sure, there are always some who seem to be living that stereo-typical experience, but are they just being try-hards? When you start paying attention to some of the drama going on, you realise that they're not even coming close. Their relationships are far from real (or maybe that's just in a girls school), their parties are super crappy, as if they're only having one to reassure themselves that they do party, and the majority of drama talked about is people getting nosy into other people's friendship groups, or stuff about guys that don't come close to real relationships. People at my school can have a boyfriend and hardly talk to them, or won't even blink an eye if their ex dates their best friend. And yet my year is considered "one of the worst" somehow.
Real drama and stereo-types actually do happen in public co-ed schools, according to old friends and social media anyway, but it's still not like the movies. Nothing is. It's funny how we sometimes let movies like Mean Girls, Gossip Girl and my new TV show Awkward effect our views on how high school should be. Or maybe that's just me. I guess if I want more stereo-typical high school drama, I should just continue watching fake movies.
But as for these rites of passage, they will come in their own time. The first kiss will happen one day. Prom, or year 12 formal, will happen. One day I really will go on a cute date. Whether it's during high school, or I wait until uni, it will happen eventually. I reckon rites of passage are different for all of us, and we should wait until they happen rather than comparing against when they happen for others. This could be said for my whole school demographic, of which less than a third of my grade has been kissed, or for my individual self.
And if I really wanted my rites of passage to come sooner, all I'd have to do is try harder. It's easy to experience something. All you have to do is go for it. It's just a matter of whether you really need to or want to. Or whether you don't want to be tacky, and want to wait for it all to come on it's own. You are who you want to be.
I follow Shay Mitchell from Pretty Little Liars on instagram, and this is relevant because she recently posted two relatable quotes I'd like to share with you...
So don't feel like you're missing out on anything. All the rites of passage will come in due time. There is no status quo. It's your environment, your choices, and basically you that determines when, and it doesn't really matter anyway.
Judging from my situation, I'm not going to be one of those people leaving high school saying I hated it. But I certainly hope high school won't be the highlight of my life either. There are so many rites of passage to go through in life, and I am excited to experience them all in due time.